Finding Life After Grief

As I found, it is hard to find comfort.  Many people you considered your friends are so unaware of how you might feel that they would't know what to do if you asked them.  They will tell you to contact them, but you may not even be aware of your own needs.  One of the ways that I found comfort was to pray and to read the Bible.  If you are not an avid reader of the Bible you might start with a real easy text.  My choice was Psalm 23.  Read it as many times as you want.  I found it to be a real comfort to me.

Another one I have found to be comforting to me is John 11:11-14 and 17-44.

Find other widows and widowers in your church and ask them for help.  Many times they can help you make it over the rough spots.

If you belong to a church membership, talk to your pastor.  He/she can give you advice as to which is correct. Some churches don't allow cremation, others do.  Funerals are expensive and cremation although cheaper, can be somewhat expensive.  Again, even though it is a painful experience, it is best to ask around, and check places out.  Have them tell you the full details and expenses. 

 I personally chose cremation, because that was what my spouse wanted.  However, it was much cheaper to have it done.

I am assuming that you are a Christian.  Yes it is okay for you to remarry.  l Cor. 7:39; Rom. 7:2.

There are a lot of things to consider if you plan to remarry.  If you have children, they should be consulted.  You don't want them to be angry at you for "forsaking their parent"  or they may be worried that when you remarry the children of the "new" spouse will be getting their inheritance.  You must consider carefully.